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Pequenopie “Little Feet” April 25, 2011

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Easter Sunday, of course is very important to me, because of what it represents. It also is a reminder to me, of the changes in our lives. A few years back, when I knew I would be going to China, my passport came on Easter. It just felt like God was saying, yes this is what I wanted you to do and then to look back at what ended up happening, is just so awesome and wonderful We had an interesting Easter morning, mommy made the mistake of waking Abby up for church. When we got into church, we lasted about two songs and it was time to go home. The music was pretty loud and with us all jammed in and feeling really warm, Abby started knocking my glasses off and was not a happy girl, which upset the mommy too. One lesson learned, do not wake baby up. Anyway, the rest of the day was very nice, going to Aunt Carols, and seeing everyone.

 This past week, I planned on putting Abby into a daycare place, just once or twice a month. I had it all worked out and the evening before, I just didn’t feel right about it and decided to cancel. I think it is important for Abby to be around other children her age but this was not the answer. Taking foster classes, Michael and I both remembered how sometimes these children feel loss. She was taken away from her birth mother, and then for a short time she was just with Tiffany and then we started taking her and she went back and forth.  I just couldn’t drop her off with these strange ladies and make her wonder where her mommy was.  I also know, that Abby is so attached to me,  and was feeling uncomfortable that if she had a difficult time, that for one thing I would be about an hour away and Michael had a work meeting.

 I just know this isn’t right for us, I also am not saying anything is wrong with parents that put their children in daycare. Both of my sisters work and their children have been put in daycare. Millions of moms work everyday and there are loving places to take care of your children. My good friend Sharon babysits her grandchildren, so there are lots of ways for moms to work. With myself, I don’t work, other than taking care of my hubby, kids and Abby and everything else, which is a job in itself. I have always said to my sisters and friends who work, I don’t know how they do it. Working or being a stay at home mom, are both work, just different.

 I have been so blessed to be able to afford to stay at home with my children but of course there are sacrifices. It took us longer to move out of our older, smaller home and into the one we are in now. When I look back at all of it, I know we did the right thing for us. These days more moms are working, because of the economy and how expensive everything is. Plus I’m sure many of them love their careers and possibly would go stir crazy being home. There are positive and negatives in both, that’s what I think and you just have to know what is right for you. Once Lizzy was in school, I became a lunch lady at her school, I only worked a few hours a day and was home when everyone came home. It was nice getting a little money and being around adults and my girls loved seeing me at school.

Needless to say, Abby will not be going to this daycare. She does see her sister Gabby and also Madison, we just need to get them together more often. She also every Sunday goes to church with me and as soon as the music ends, daddy takes her where the nursery kids are. We stay out with her and play with her and watch her play with the other children, she loves it. But we are with her, not leaving her with people she doesn’t know. I think it was easier when Beka, Aubrey and Lizzy were little because both of our parents watched them once in a while for us. Once our parents moved away, we knew a neighbor girl, that the girls felt comfortable with. Soon enough she will be a bigger girl and she will go to school, so right now mom will just have to sacrifice and rely on Abby’s sisters. Aubrey and her boyfriend Derek babysat Abby for us this weekend and it was so great to go out and have a nice time. It was so weird to not have Abby with me, this tells me mommy needs more, mommy time without Abby.

“For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect.” 1 Peter 1:18-19

More to come later!


Pequenopie “Little Feet” April 18, 2011

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Abby had her 18 month check up and is doing so good. She is in the 80th percentile, which goes by her weight, height and head circumference. When she was an infant and even 6 mos ago, she was still at the 50th percentile, so she is putting on weight and getting tall. This little girl eats and eats, she is thin but even her doctor said she will be tall and lean. Which is exactly how her birth mother is, lean, tall and athletic.

 Also Abbys’ speech is right where it should be, she says about 6 words and babbles all the time. The doctor said even if she wasn’t saying any words, the babbling is important. Abby was all over the doctor and so sweet, poor little thing had to get 2 shots and she sure let us know how she felt about it. Talked about Abbys sleep issues and the doctor said that it’s pretty normal at this age. She said it may get better the warmer it gets and the more we are outside. That makes sense we all do better when were outside and enjoying not being cooped up in the house.

 I also talked to the doctor about Abby being emotionally scared, if we fostered children and then they left our home. I was concerned for Abby, and don’t want her to be upset or hurt. With Aubrey and Lizzy, I can explain, that this child will only be our foster child and then will either go back to their family or find a new one. I was happy to hear the doctor say, they have a few foster families, that always have foster children and she hasn’t seen anything negative about it. I also have talked to adults who had foster kids in their family and everyone seemed positive about their experiences. Some of them were still in contact with the foster kids that were brought into their homes.

This evening, Lizzy wanted to help give Abby her bath, she was so cute. There is nothing like siblings and the love they have for each other. Afterwards When I had Abby partially dressed and her legs were bare, she kept grabbing her thighs and looking at her toes, like what the heck are these. Every day is a new day, and new discovery.

I can’t wait for summer, we all feel stuck in our homes ready for the warmer days. But with a baby, I guess there are all those new discoveries, like going swimming, the sand between your toes, at the beach. Last year Abby was still so young, so she won’t remember going to the zoo and swimming in Aunt Barb’s pool.

“(Christ Crucified is God’s power and wisdom) For the message of the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.” 1 Corinthians 1:18

More to come!

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Pequenopie “Little Feet” April 11, 2011

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Abby is now 18 months old, she is a sweet, little stinker. We are enjoying every moment with her and can’t wait for more and more. Last night we had company over and Abby loved Uncle Sharon’s pork loin and daddy’s pasta. It was so nice having some much-needed adult time, once Abby was put down for bed. I’m back to what I used to remember as, no adult conversation. Well I do have baby, teen and young adult conversation but it’s not the same as getting with your best friends, and really talking.

Abby is playing in a box, on our kitchen floor, while I try to write this. She is in a short sleeve shirt, and capri summer pants, enjoying this little heat wave we have going in Michigan right now. Wish it would stay this warm but I’m afraid probably not, but we will enjoy this for as long as possible.

We are planning on going to Tennessee this summer and visit with Michael’s parents, my sister and parents too. Last night was a rough night, and jokingly I said to Michael, if Abby doesn’t stop screaming in the middle of the night, I’m not going. Some nights are easier than others, and last night was a bad one. Sometimes Abby just talks, coos and laughs, while other nights she cries and cries, but I know we will get through this stage and it will be unto something different. Seems like you get used to a stage your children are going through and have figured out how to live with it and then they are like ok mom and dad are too used to this, time to confuse them again.

In life at times, you just have to slow down and look at God’s creations. They are all around you, down to the smallest bug and the biggest mountain. Sometimes that saying to stop and smell the roses, is so smart, because we all go through things at times. Things that we are powerless against, things that don’t make sense and to smell the roses, says there is good in our lives. Just a simple I love you from your kids, a hug, a butterfly, or a silly Abby in your lives can make any cloud go away. Also to look outward from ourselves, to know that God has it all figured out and it’s all in his hands.

“You see, at just the right time, when we were still powerless, Christ died for the ungodly. Very rarely will anyone die for a righteous person, though for a good person someone might possibly dare to die. But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Romans 5:6-8

More to come later!


Pequenopie “Little Feet” April 4, 2011

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These are 3 of my girls, they sure are silly girls. I love how silly, crazy and loving they are. Abby loves all of her sisters so much, she screams out when Beka, Aubrey or Lizzy come in the room, after work or being away for a while. We are so blessed to have all of our girls accept Abby as one of their own, just like their own sibling, which she is.

Abby was so cute with the other babies at church today. She was trying to give a little boy a kiss and he was really freaked out, like oh no, what is this girl going to do to me. Daddy had to come and save the little boy and then after she was rubbing his face, like we have been teaching her to be gentle.

It’s amazing to me, that whatever your kids are going through and no matter the age, you are always the mom. We have best friends that have kids that are parents themselves, and you always worry and pray for them. Many times over the years, at times you have to take a step back and say ok God, you protect them, you keep them in your arms, since I can’t worry anymore. He always gives us peace and rest, when we need it, even if we didn’t realize we needed it. I can depend on him for everything, he is my everything. I love that song Everything,

And how can I stand here with you

And not be moved by you

Would you tell me how could it be

Any better than this 

 How amazing to think he is standing beside us all the time. I don’t have words to express how this makes me feel. When I look at my girls, my husband, and how he made everything happen with Abby, I am amazed. It is beyond belief, beautiful and wonderful, so precious. My love, my feelings of being Abbys mother, is amazing. That he has equipped me to feel in my heart and soul the way I do, for this little one. She is our everything!

“Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down on the right hand of the throne of God.” Hebrews 12:2

More to come!