This week was another busy one, on Tuesday our adoption lady petitioned the court with our adoption file and it went through. We are on our way to having this precious little one, to be ours legally. It is amazing that about a year ago we weren’t sure what to do. We knew without a doubt that we wanted to adopt a child but every country we looked at was so expensive and so many years to wait. It’s funny, this week I received an email from the agency we were looking to adopt from Nepal, saying you are 3rd on the waiting list for 2011. To think we would still not even be ready, waiting, not knowing where the finances would come from.
I am so thankful for how it all happened and both us and Tiffany, knew it was all God. It just happened too neatly, so easy, so quick. I believe all along even before Abby was in her birth mother’s tummy, he knew. He knows all things, he knows every hair on this little girls head, he knew what better thing to do, to keep these two girls together and unite these two families.
Abby and Gabby went on their first zoo trip together, it was also Tiffany’s first time. We had a wonderful hot sunny day, with 4 children, one big sister and two moms. We also had Abby and Gabby’s uncle Cliff with us, he is only 4 and it was so nice to see them all enjoying time together. Cliff is in foster care right now but his birth father is working to get custody of him.
The next day we met up at the mall to get Abby and Gabby’s pictures done together. It was interesting seeing Tiffany, Lizzy and I trying to get these two girls to cooperate. Gabby was very compliant at first, she and Abby sat on the floor and it was so sweet. Gabby kept giving Abby kisses and Abby just sat there. Well as we all know, within a few minutes a two-year can’t sit still, so Gabby was all over the place, so then we focused on Abby. We tried to get her to smile and of course she wasn’t having that at all. Meanwhile Gabby is running around, it was crazy but we did end up getting a few pictures of them together and also both by themselves too.
Some things are a coincidence but it just seems like it was supposed to happen that way. The photographer heard our story of our girls being sisters and Lizzy saying now I have more sisters, not just Abby but Gabby too. If Tiffany is able to adopt the new baby she is fostering, then that would be another sister too. Anyway, the photographer told us her parents fostered troubled teen girls. They adopted two and have kept in contact with 22 foster kids. This young woman told us she talks to all of them, has a relationship with all of them. I asked a few questions, cause we are thinking of keeping our license and after Abby gets older, considering just fostering, until a child will get adopted or reunited with their birth parents. There is such a need for this, I feel like Tiffany was there to keep our little Abby until we got our license, what better way to give back, to love and nurture a child, until they are united with their forever family.
She said it was really hard at times, since they were fostering troubled teens but so rewarding at the same time. Right now my focus of course is on our little Abby and the family we have now. But this is something that we are considering in the future and it would not be troubled teens or any children that old. It was also quite funny to talk to the lady who checked us out, she heard also just that we were adopting sisters. She was very polite and friendly and asked can I ask you a question, anyway she asked if Tiffany and I were partners. I laughed and so did Tiffany, I had mentioned jokingly to Tiffany a while back, that people who saw us, might come to that conclusion. Anyway, I respected her asking us, instead of just assuming and maybe judging us. I laughed and said oh I have my man and so does she.
These days there are so many different family groups. There are grandparents, aunts, sisters, friends raising other people’s children and making them a part of their family. The photographer told us how she is raising her niece. I hope people would not judge, when they see something that isn’t the norm but today what is the norm. Sometimes we need to open our way of thinking, to not judge when we see something.
Come to me, all who labor or are heavy laden, and i will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me; for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest in your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Mathew 11:28-30
More to come later!