These are my two oldest girls, they are both growing up so fast, right before our eyes. I remember being a stay at home mom and so happy to get some, me time, when they started school. Now they are both going on their journey of womanhood. Each making decisions, whether it’s what they are going to do in school and work, to what boy they are going to date, or for my oldest, marry.
My husband and I are already feeling that empty nest syndrome, many nights we are at home with just our youngest. Which is awesome to have our youngest talk with us and not to have the oldest two constantly interupting her, but it is different. I’ve always said when you have your kids, no one gives you a parent book when you leave the hospital.
Each and everyone has his or her own personality, their own quirkiness, their own ideals and beliefs. None of them come with directions, like when they are teens and they do this, you should discipline them like this. We experienced this when our oldest Beka was little we disciplined her in certain ways and it usually worked pretty well. Well when we had our second child, she was very strong-willed, which at the time could be difficult. Aubrey was harder to discipline, but she was a sweet naughty girl at times. We loved them both the same but we had two girls, who are different.
God made us all special and unique, not one of us is alike. When I was a teenager I was best friends with twins, they looked so much alike but were so different. They may have resembled each other but their gifts and personality were like night and day.
My friend Sharon came over this week with her two grandchildren and it was so nice to be around little ones. Sharon babysits them a few times a week, so it was nice to chat to her about her patience and stuff with them. These things are on my mind, with us wanting to adopt. Michael are I are older now and even though we have been parents for over 20 years, I guess you wonder how it will feel to start over, whether our child will be 1 or 4.
I have been pondering how I felt in China with these orphans and how you react to your nieces and nephews and babies around you. I think when Sharon came over, both of those children have a mommy and daddy. The children that I feel in love with have no parents, no siblings, no one that is planning a future for them.
I have held and comforted babies in the nursery at our church. I have watched and babysat my nieces and nephews, but their mommies and daddies were getting them in the morning. So I believe this is where the difference is. I have pondered how our live will change, will we be able to go to North Carolina again and stay on the beach for our family vacation? How much patience will I have or not? Will Michael and I regret our decision?
There are so many questions but when I look at my heart, I know. I know the answer, it will be hard. This will be our child, just like when a new baby comes home from the hospital and has croup, yes the parents may be sleep deprived but I’m sure most parents would know this is just a season. Just like when my parents caught me smoking or lieing, they loved me enough to discipline me. They didn’t give up on me, never ever.
Thank you for always loving me no matter what!
I also saw the way I want to be with my grand kids, to enjoy them, to savour every precious second. I loved what Sharon told me, that she has good days and bad, isn’t that the way it is with all parents. Even now with three beautiful ornery girls, 15, 18 and 21 we all have good days and bad days.
I already see that our adopted child may already have some children to get together for play dates. So Sharon I look forward to going to the park and finding fun things for us to do together.
But the endless possibilities and reasons for adopting, far out way my fears. This child just wants a family and home, we have that. They need clothes, shelter, food, and safety. They need a place that is theirs, a life of their own, a future. Most of all they want love.
Love is patient, love is kind, it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 cor 13:4
Love never fails. 1 cor 13:8